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Feb. 18th, 2019 10:14 pm
( rambles about ADHD, sickness, car repairs )Halfway through the afternoon, I ate the last brownie from my inaugural batch of edibles, and have spent the rest of the day pleasantly high. :D
I've been thinking about how much I love my people, and how much I want to be part of a close-knit chosen family that takes care of each other.
It got me thinking about polyamory and radical queer culture and how sometimes we talk about the ways in which marriage is a patriarchal construct.
Most of my friends aren't looking at imminent marriage. We're living together, working, dating more or less casually or seriously, maybe still on our parents' phone plans or maybe just making a go of it fully on our own. Marriage is a distant thing, if ever. Sometimes we talk about kids, but that's still pretty far off, too.
But these roommate relationships, these romantic friendships and queerplatonic partnerships and chosen siblinghoods, are so deeply fulfilling to me.
I want to hear more conversations about hijacking marriage, now that we're legally allowed to do it, for queer purposes.
i don't want to slide into the pinkwashed version of two kids and a white picket fence in the suburbs, but it seems to me silly to eschew the whole institution. why don't we marry our friends, our comrades, our platonic partners? why let the tax and social advantages go all to unqueer people?
it's all tied up with the larger issue: let's talk more about platonic partnerships and romantic friendships and unsexualized affection and chosen family.
